Here I am at 26, that is 24 years ago. Back then I didn’t like myself much. That surprises me now!
This business about “you don’t look your age” … What does it mean exactly? And mind you, I’m guilty of saying it too! I intend it as a compliment of course, and I know that when people tell me I don’t look fifty they are saying I look younger. But, is that a good thing? Looking younger when you’re older, I mean. The compliment I enjoy the best at my age is: “you wear fifty well.” It seems more fitting to how I’m trying to portray mature women: as very capable, sassy, creative, hopeful and joyful human beings.
When I was fifteen, teaching English to adults at a language school, they often thought I was eighteen or twenty. Of course back then I loved that. I wanted to be “grown up.” But the comments weren’t entirely about my looks … I was mature for my age. Life made me so.
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On the other hand, now when someone tells me I don’t look fifty, I also know it’s not about looks. It has a lot more to do with my attitude. There’s something about overcoming an eating disorder, depression, panic attacks, a terrible self-image, extreme shyness, dysfunctional relationships, divorce, unemployment and poverty that either tears you down or builds you up. I guess I -perhaps inadvertently- choose the latter.
So going back to my first thought, what is fifty supposed to look like? What is forty supposed to look like? Thirty? Twenty? Well, I think it’s really up to you! Continue reading
Estos son los pantalones cortos que menciono en el post. La foto hecha ayer por mi nena de 9 años.
Creo que no hay persona que no tema envejecer, lo admita abiertamente o no. El propósito de este blog es, por un lado, confirmar a los lectores más jóvenes que cumplir años tiene sus ventajas y, por otro, animar a quienes a la mediana edad aún no han encontrado su norte, a seguir buscándolo porque la vida es un camino que sólo termina con la muerte …
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En este post se me ha ocurrido contar siete ventajas que tengo ahora, a los cincuenta, comparado con mi juventud. Espero animarte a contarme en los comentarios qué temores te produce el cumplir años o por el contrario, qué ventajas sientes que tienes ahora. Continue reading
Two months after I turned 50. Photo by my 9-yr old while we jumped around waiting for her 12-year old sister do her soccer practice.
How you look and feel in your fifties is usually the result of how you’ve been treating yourself since you were a young girl. I´ve committed my fair share of sins such as sunbathing without sunscreen (blisters on my shoulders and a peeled nose were to be expected every single summer as a kid), indulging in too much Happy Hour and extreme dieting, which led to an eating disorder I battled for years.
But, looking at my 50-year old self in the mirror today – age-related fine lines, wrinkles and gray hairs aside – I also see the results of good habits I picked up early in life. Fortunately they´re simple things that any young woman can do to reach midlife in half decent shape. If you’re 15, 20, 30 … don´t let anyone tell you it´s too early to start taking care of yourself. It´s never too soon! If you do as I say and as I did, one day, when you blow out your own 50 candles, you´ll thank me for this post!
Here are my 7 things you can do starting in your teens, to look and feel fabulous when you reach fifty. Continue reading
A few days after my 50th Birthday
When I made it known to my social media community that I was proudly turning half a century, I was showered with all kinds of well-meant happy returns for the day. I also got many comments that were well-intended but not so well-received: “You look great for your age,” or, “Don´t worry, 50 is the new 30.”
I reflected on those statements and realized they didn´t ring true for me. No offense, as my tween kids would say, but I think I look pretty damn good for any age! Of course this is something I say because at this point in life I feel more confident than ever before. I had heard that about midlife women – they really speak their mind – and it´s true! Fifty is not the new 30, or the new 40. It´s the new 50, and that´s a great thing! If it really were the new 30 or 40, I´d probably be pining to have another baby. And then when my mid-life kid turned 20, I´d be a good old 70. Now please don´t tell me that life starts at 70! Continue reading